All You Have to Do is Shower Yourself With Love to Make it Through The Cloudy Days! Just like the flowers need the sun and rain to grow. We need are Love more than we think. And the more we Love Ourselves–the more Love we Have to GIVE to Others!
Black Love Edition: Celebrating and Promoting Black Love, Black Families and Children by teaching the Power of Self-Love!
Never chase after so-called “true love”! If the person truly wants to be with you, they will make an equal effort to be there. So many times in black families we see the opposite of this–I know I did growing up as a young black woman. Everyone was looking for love–even if it killed their mind, body and soul. They just wanted some form of love.
Sadly in “single-mom” black families the majority of us never see healthy relationships and/or family units. And often times we follow down the same “toxic’ path that we were expose to. Thinking that love hurts, comes with pain, and is filled with DRAMA!
It’s time to break this cycle of dysfunction and start teaching our children the importance of loving themselves first. And by giving them examples of positive and healthy black relationships. They shouldn’t have to “only” look up to celebrity black couples like Beyonce’ & Jay Z for inspiration. This source of inspiration should be more personal and up close–in their families and communities!
Earlier this week, I was speaking with a single mom that works at my local FedEx store…and I complimented her on her beautiful nail design. She had the loveliest shades of purple. After she said, “Thank you!”, she hesitantly said how guilty she feels when she treats herself. I told her not to feel guilty, we all deserve to treat ourselves sometimes.
Sadly, as women we often feel guilty when we decide to do something nice for ourselves (including me). We both agreed that we were going to do better in treating ourselves… And NOT feel Guilty about it! I thought this was the cutest reminder for all of us! It’s really Ok to Treat YOURSELF Sometimes! So, go ahead and treat yourself!