“I always felt like the black sheep, turns out I was always a White Dove.” – Loveselfme
Last week, I shared a helpful post on accepting your unique beautiful self. Check it out here! Today, I’m being inspired to touch on a much needed self-love topic–dealing with feeling like the “black sheep” of your family! Often times when people are different; especially from their own families–it’s easy to be seen as the outsider (and painfully pushed aside).
I was (and at times still do) feel like the “black sheep” in my family. Nobody in my family seemed to be able to see nor appreciate who I truly was–am. In my immediate family, I always felt misunderstood. You see I had many different views on how I wanted to live my life. Growing up in a working-class diverse area in Southwest Detroit, I didn’t want to be another “urban” statistic! I refused to become a stereotype.
I always wanted and dreamt of being MORE! And although, I never judged anyone else for the choices that they made in their lives. It appears that just having the attitude of “high-standards” for myself (or for even encouraging others to do the same) ousted me as an outcast! In essence, as a child and well into my young adult life, I spent a lot of time feeling alone–and just yearning to fit it (with my family or anybody for that manner).
As an older adult, I really had to come to terms and accept that I may not ever fit in with my family. I finally realize that I was NOT the “black sheep”; yet, a White Dove with different thoughts, and views on the world. You see I was never created to fit in! I AM called to be my Uniquely Beautiful Self!
Are you feeling like the “black sheep” in your family? Learn how to accept, heal and move on with your life!
- Practice Self-Love: If nobody else is going to love you, love yourself! Learning to love and accept yourself is going to help you tremendously in this situation. How other people feel about you is not your problem, it’s all about how you feel about yourself! You don’t need your family’s permission to be you–Love Yourself!
- Build Your Tribe: Family is more than blood-related. Start connecting with other like-minded people that you can relate to–that will support and accept you. Surround yourself with positive people who will celebrate your Uniqueness!
- Let it Go: It takes a joint effort to build a relationship. You don’t have to stay around people who are not willing to accept you. You can still love for your family–and that doesn’t mean you can’t be around your family either! However, I would strongly recommend setting “healthy boundaries” to protect yourself. And if necessary, be willing to love yourself enough to walk away from toxic relationships.
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