When someone is toxic to your heart and soul, have the courage to walk away – #Loveselfme
Toxic relationships are nothing pretty! They can be emotionally draining and unhealthy for your mind, body, and spirit. The sad truth is that some people are not even aware that they are in one; especially women. I know I didn’t realize how toxic my 15-year relationship was..until the very “painful” end! As women we just keep trying..and trying–waiting for things in the relationship “to get better”. Yet, often times they never do. Sometimes they get worst!
A healthy relationship and union should uplift you and add to your overall self-happiness. Don’t allow a toxic relationship to suck the “life” right out of you. You deserve so much better! These 4 Warning signs will help you tell early on if you are in a Toxic Relationship!
The relationship is unequally yoked.
You and the person just don’t see eye to eye. You don’t have the same goals and dreams in life. The two of you may not even have the same morals or religious beliefs. Your ships just seem to be navigating on two separate oceans. If you can’t get on the same page, this toxic situation will cause one person in the relationship to give an unreasonably amount of sacrifice to accommodate the other person’s happiness. Resulting in feelings of regret, resentment and anger. You may even feel like you are losing your own self-identity, which is never good!
You don’t trust them.
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship (love or business). When you don’t have trust in your union this makes the contract “null & void”. If you have suspicious about their behavior or whereabouts, there’s a problem. And if you have been tempted to secretly check their cell phone, emails, etc. This is unhealthy behavior and will result in even more distrust in your relationship-making the problem worst! Just don’t go there. If you think something is going on, it is time to have a “grow-up” conversation with your partner. Decide if you can work out your trust issues. If not, it may be time to love yourself and move on to a relationship that makes you feel safe and secure.
They don’t make you a priority.
A loving and respectful union is treated with care and love. When you value someone and want them in your life, you make them a priority. If your partner is consistently not making you a priority, you may be in unhealthy relationship. Especially, if this issue has resulted in several verbal disagreements and short breaks apart. Talk with your partner…no judgement or blaming. If you don’t feel like you’re a priority this is going to equal you feeling like you are NOT loved or valued in your partner’s life. And this is a very unhealthy situation to be Happy in.
They don’t respect you.
I know on T.V. reality shows it seems like it’s normal for couples to fight, scream and insult one another. Yet, this is all dysfunctional behavior. And this type of drama is so draining! If your partner is not respecting or valuing you in a loving and healthy manner, it times to make some tough decisions. Both parties should have a mutual love and respect. No engaging in “talking down” or ridiculing each other. And if it ever gets physical..this is a severe warning sign, I would recommend making this a “deal-breaker”!
Being in a healthy and loving relationship is what we all deserve. Learning and identifying these warning signs will help you tell if you’re in a toxic relationship. It may be time to love yourself and move on!