For a long time, I used to be the “Yes” girl. I said Yes to almost everyone and everything. This left me quickly feeling burnt out, angry and abused! It is essential for my well-being to live a balanced life. No one wants to be overloaded , overworked and/or stressed out! In turn, I had to learn how to create healthy boundaries on my time and energy. I learned the power of saying, “NO” (with a smile, of course)!
The next time someone tries to tie up your already full schedule, Here’s 3 Polite Ways I learned to say ,”NO”
1. “I have a prior engagement or commitment.”
Saying that you have a prior engagement or that you have plans is a polite way to confirm your unavailability for a task, meeting, etc. Don’t feel like you have to divulge what those plans are. You could have a plan just to sit and relax. That’s part of your self-care and that’s sounds like a good plan to me!
2. ” Thanks for understanding, my schedule is full at this time.”
This informs the other person(s) that it’s not you; yet, your work or personal schedule won’t allow you to fully commit to something else at this time. You’re politely saying, “No”–and at the same time leaving the door open for the person to consider you again in the future.
3. “I prefer not to.”
This one is the “big one”. If someone is asking you to do something that you know you would NEVER (or at least at this point) want to do. You don’t want to appear rude or confrontational! Yet, you want give a clear “NO”. Simply say,”I prefer not to.” (with a smile). This puts a definite period on the subject at hand. They probably won’t ask you again!
Sometimes you have to say, “No” to others to say, “YES” to yourself!